When we make a conscious decision to change,then add persistent action - EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE!
First the change will start within, then the community will be there for support.
Community? Yes, our community!
But wait...we don't have communities anymore!
We barely have stable family units. Just single-parents or married, not in love partners, in constant SURVIVAL MODE trying to maintain the image of happiness.
I'm being sarcastic(but I'm really not)...
Where is my community? Who do I turn to when I feel weak? When I feel like not surviving through another work week? When I'm emotionally exhausted from parenting hormonal teenagers?
I generally internalize all my real problems, then over time; make a way. That's emotionally exhausting! This is why I meditate daily, to free myself from all the stress. Of course, I have friends and my mother(shout-out to my mom); but where is my community?
Community is defined as :
1. A group of people living in the same place, or having a particular characteristic in common, especially one practicing common ownership
2. A feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interest, and goals.
3. Joint Ownership and Liability
We've become so individualistic. What I want, What I need, What's in it for me - WE have forgotten about the WHOLE.
I live in a nice neighborhood, but do I really know my neighbors? NO! We all live separate lives.
Yes, I have friends. We talk about our problems, personal and family issues, but do we really support each other in resolving these conflicts? If my daughter is failing math, does my friend care? If her son is having a hard time coping with the social changes of high school, do I truly care and take ownership that her problem is my problem?
NO.
We're in a time where, their problem is their problem. Yes, I will give some soothing words of advice. But will I actually support her in putting action to my words of support?
Community is Joint Ownership and Liability. In a community, if her son was having a hard time, then my son is having a hard time. We are ONE. The community would come in and support her family in helping the child.
In a community, when one is weak the community is weak. When one marriage is dissolving, the community is losing an important component. The community is liable for not counseling and maintaining that marriage. Therefore, a community will do everything to heal the couples' marital problems. A weak family unit means a weak community. They are ONE!
Community is support! We need support! Support to reach our Shared Common Goals!
I believe that's why we have so many divorces, so many single parent homes, so many unwed mothers and fathers, so many boys and girls lost, and so many angry men and women. We aren't supporting each other through life struggles.
We hide our problems. Sharing problems is an invitation for judgments from family and friends. Will they truly care or will they just tell my business to everyone and laugh behind my back? Some people can see the struggle of others, but they ignore it. Some feel if it doesn't affect them personally, then they don't care. Some generally don't want to be bothered with the burden of actually helping or supporting others through rough times. They seem concerned, but really they would rather just maintain their own lives; surviving and maintaining the facade of happiness, the best way they can.
Through all of lives ups and downs we need a community to share in the ups and hold us up when we start to fall.
I don't know about you, but I need a community. So, I'm building one! Starting with my circle! A circle of liked minded individuals to grow and support each other in reaching our shared common goals! I'm attracting exactly who and what I desire!
This has to stop! In order for us to succeed and prepare a better place for the next generation, we need strong communities. To have strong communities we must first have strong family units. Mother, Father and Child. So for the next couple of weeks I will give my expressions on the family. So we can prepare to grow and build in LOVE with our male and female counterparts to produce balanced, focused children.
If there is a Feeling of Fellowship because of Shared Common Attitudes, Interest, and Goals - let's be a community.
Let's stop surviving and let's start THRIVING!
Some may not understand and agree, but these are just the Expressions by Carrice.
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Carrice
This is such a powerful message! Thank you for reminding me what a true community is! You are a gifted freelance writer, blogger and all of the above. Thanks for sharing your gift!!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! Please pass on the knowledge!
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